#HelpAQueenOut: The End of an Era?

Over a year ago, I launched an online networking hour on Twitter for the first time. I had high expectations for #HelpAQueenOut but at its core I wanted it to be a virtual meeting space for women to connect with each other.

Having experienced the powers of sisterhood in my personal life, I wanted to gift this love to other women and use the internet as a tool to reach them. I know it isn’t easy for everybody to go out there and meet new people, but through the comforts of social media, I wanted to create a space where that could happen.

It’s been a beautiful experience and so much has happened. In the time #HelpAQueenOut has existed, I have witnessed new friendships forming, held an event, collaborations and support from one Queen to another. I have led and then observed supportive discussions, given and received words of advice, and laughed at tweets that helped me forget about my own worries. It has been a safe space, an hour of joy and uplifting conversations, and it has been the highest point of many a week while I was still battling depression behind the scenes.

Its consistency is what has made it so special. I’ve hosted this hour every week since I started it, missing about 6-8 due to personal reasons in that time. I’ve learned the names and passions of regular participants, of women who show up to get their weekly boost and share their good energy. I’ve created a format that checks in with everybody, set goals and give words of advice because it helped structure the content for the hour. I’ve tried polls and videos, I’ve retweeted helpful blog posts, podcasts and quotes, initiating discussion and helped steer it, I’ve been a host and a willing participant in building this sisterhood up from the beginning. I held an event last year to see if the online magic could be transferred to the physical form, and it did and it inspired in the same way.

In short, it has been a blast, a beautiful experience of trial and error, of being at the forefront on a quest to build a sisterhood and gift that to women who have yet to benefit from it.

However, there’s been a shift and I feel it is necessary to share this with you, my regular participants. I love this networking hour but the responsibility of hosting it every single week (minus the few I haven’t been able to) has begun to feel heavy. It has begun to weigh in on my Sundays, hovering around at a time when I know I should be relaxing, enjoying the quiet time with my family. As much as I love sisterhood, my heart just isn’t in hosting #HelpAQueenOut anymore. I love social media, like really love it, but my desire to be detached and separated from it is growing. In my mind, this is not the only way I can reach women, but this is one way that I feel has been exhausted.

I’ve given much thought to offering the hosting of this hour to others, but to what end? What really is the end goal here? I feel my focus has changed, likely with the introduction of running a business this year, but I am beginning to evaluate the relevance of every creative pursuit. There are projects I’d love to hold onto, including my events about writing, my blogging, and my general writing, because they fuel my purpose of expressing myself through writing and encourage others to do the same. I anticipate even greater projects and opportunities to come this way, but I’ve had to let projects go in order to make room. Admittedly, Project YOU has been in my archives for a while. Though I loved all that had been accomplished and believed in the message, my heart wasn’t in it anymore. My focus had changed, I’ve changed, and it no longer reflects where I’m at. I’ve evolved, in both personal and professional ways, and so anything I produce from here on will be a combination of everything I’ve done and the lessons applied from that experience.

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In all honesty, the end of #HelpAQueenOut has been coming for a while. It’s not new, it’s not a knee-jerk reaction to a quiet week, but rather a final decision made by someone who just can’t commit to pouring love into something she doesn’t love anymore. I know sisterhood is strong, and we all need a light to follow, we all need room to grow so we can become that light for others. I know for some time #HelpAQueenOut has been a source of inspiration and encouragement for women, and I’m so happy to know that it has made a difference in its duration. But it’s time to shut up shop and shut down, my plans for the sisterhood are much bigger than anything I’m currently doing. I can’t take a step forward until I make a decision on what I’m leaving behind, and with the most amount of love, it’s time to put #HelpAQueenOut out of sight and out of the way, to make room for the next big thing I am guided to work on.

This is not a complete end, this is not goodbye forever or goodbye at all, this is one great concept retiring to make room for much more. It’s been beautiful, but it’s time for me to move on.

Thank you for all the love and support, and I send you so much more in return. And remember, sisterhood is a 24/7 commitment, not just for Sundays.

Love, Annika x

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11 Comments Add yours

  1. Natalie says:

    I always admire your honesty.
    Onwards and upwards girl!

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    1. Thank you lovely xxx


  2. I can completely relate and have reached this point a number of times over the years. It used to feel like failing or quitting but now I know everything is a stepping stone and that it is ok to let some things go. And learning to know and trust when that time is is a lesson and growth in itself.
    Thank you SO much for the space you created for us and the relationships you facilitated. I’ve always admired how committed you are to showing up for us every Sunday. You’re an incredible woman and you are appreciated.
    I look forward to us meeting up for sisterhood in the flesh real soon. Sending you lots of love and hugs xxx

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    1. Hello lovely, thank you so much for reading and commenting. I literally just had to think about everything I want to achieve and what I was willing to release in order to get there. Definitely not failing or quitting, but half the battle is learning to trust that fact. We are long overdue an actual meetup. We’ll be talking for hours! Lots of love xxx


  3. Yasmin says:

    I’m sad I’m only learning about #helpaqueenout now when its over/on hiatus. Perhaps in the future when you are ready to do it again, you could rotate the hosting amongst other bloggers so then it feel less like a burden. Just an idea. All the best.

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    1. Dominique says:

      I agree, I’d also be willing to support if you ever want to resurrect #HelpAQueenOut.

      It’s great that you can be so honest. Sometimes we need to ‘quit’ things that are no longer good for us and in your case you are onto bigger things. You’re great at connecting the Queens and that is a result in itself. Good luck in all of the continued adventures 🙂

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      1. Hello me Brummie lovely 🙂 Thank you for reading. And you’re absolutely right, there comes a point where you have to let go and move on. I’m glad that it was a decision I made with love rather than resentment. Many more adventures coming this way!


    2. Hello Yasmin, thank you so much for reading and for your comment. And your suggestion is awesome, and has been attempted prior to this, but I think the timing is off for everybody. Let’s see what happens in the future! xxx


  4. Mariam says:

    Thanks Annika for all those wonderful Sunday mornings. I can’t stress how much those chats helped when I was going through a tough time, my only regret was not making more time for it. It is sad to see it go but I completely understand the need to let things go that no longer motivate your spirit. I am excited to see what comes next. Onwards and upwards!


    1. Hey Mariam, thank you so much for reading and commenting. I love that it helped you through a hard time, that was exactly why I felt it was so important to create a sisterhood. There’s always room for growth so I am excited for the next transition, and hopefully you’ll follow me there too. But for now, sending you SO MUCH LOVE my sistah xxxx


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