Over a year ago, I launched an online networking hour on Twitter for the first time. I had high expectations for #HelpAQueenOut but at its core I wanted it to be a virtual meeting space for women to connect with each other.
Having experienced the powers of sisterhood in my personal life, I wanted to gift this love to other women and use the internet as a tool to reach them. I know it isn’t easy for everybody to go out there and meet new people, but through the comforts of social media, I wanted to create a space where that could happen.
It’s been a beautiful experience and so much has happened. In the time #HelpAQueenOut has existed, I have witnessed new friendships forming, held an event, collaborations and support from one Queen to another. I have led and then observed supportive discussions, given and received words of advice, and laughed at tweets that helped me forget about my own worries. It has been a safe space, an hour of joy and uplifting conversations, and it has been the highest point of many a week while I was still battling depression behind the scenes.
Its consistency is what has made it so special. I’ve hosted this hour every week since I started it, missing about 6-8 due to personal reasons in that time. I’ve learned the names and passions of regular participants, of women who show up to get their weekly boost and share their good energy. I’ve created a format that checks in with everybody, set goals and give words of advice because it helped structure the content for the hour. I’ve tried polls and videos, I’ve retweeted helpful blog posts, podcasts and quotes, initiating discussion and helped steer it, I’ve been a host and a willing participant in building this sisterhood up from the beginning. I held an event last year to see if the online magic could be transferred to the physical form, and it did and it inspired in the same way.
In short, it has been a blast, a beautiful experience of trial and error, of being at the forefront on a quest to build a sisterhood and gift that to women who have yet to benefit from it.
However, there’s been a shift and I feel it is necessary to share this with you, my regular participants. I love this networking hour but the responsibility of hosting it every single week (minus the few I haven’t been able to) has begun to feel heavy. It has begun to weigh in on my Sundays, hovering around at a time when I know I should be relaxing, enjoying the quiet time with my family. As much as I love sisterhood, my heart just isn’t in hosting #HelpAQueenOut anymore. I love social media, like really love it, but my desire to be detached and separated from it is growing. In my mind, this is not the only way I can reach women, but this is one way that I feel has been exhausted.
I’ve given much thought to offering the hosting of this hour to others, but to what end? What really is the end goal here? I feel my focus has changed, likely with the introduction of running a business this year, but I am beginning to evaluate the relevance of every creative pursuit. There are projects I’d love to hold onto, including my events about writing, my blogging, and my general writing, because they fuel my purpose of expressing myself through writing and encourage others to do the same. I anticipate even greater projects and opportunities to come this way, but I’ve had to let projects go in order to make room. Admittedly, Project YOU has been in my archives for a while. Though I loved all that had been accomplished and believed in the message, my heart wasn’t in it anymore. My focus had changed, I’ve changed, and it no longer reflects where I’m at. I’ve evolved, in both personal and professional ways, and so anything I produce from here on will be a combination of everything I’ve done and the lessons applied from that experience.
In all honesty, the end of #HelpAQueenOut has been coming for a while. It’s not new, it’s not a knee-jerk reaction to a quiet week, but rather a final decision made by someone who just can’t commit to pouring love into something she doesn’t love anymore. I know sisterhood is strong, and we all need a light to follow, we all need room to grow so we can become that light for others. I know for some time #HelpAQueenOut has been a source of inspiration and encouragement for women, and I’m so happy to know that it has made a difference in its duration. But it’s time to shut up shop and shut down, my plans for the sisterhood are much bigger than anything I’m currently doing. I can’t take a step forward until I make a decision on what I’m leaving behind, and with the most amount of love, it’s time to put #HelpAQueenOut out of sight and out of the way, to make room for the next big thing I am guided to work on.
This is not a complete end, this is not goodbye forever or goodbye at all, this is one great concept retiring to make room for much more. It’s been beautiful, but it’s time for me to move on.
Thank you for all the love and support, and I send you so much more in return. And remember, sisterhood is a 24/7 commitment, not just for Sundays.
Love, Annika x
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